As LGBT we have felt the sting of discrimination. Most of us firsthand and pointedly. Others as witnesses traumatized by the possibilities.

It is simply intolerable to be passive in situations where we can intervene. Let me give you an example.

I was attacked in a bathroom by three men once, there were about 90 people who just watched. People were urinating and showering while I was being beaten, annoyed that they had to step around me. If only one person had come to my aid…that night my bowels emptied, I couldn’t swallow anything. I ruminated the incident over and over again. I can still see the faces of everyone who simply watched. Some looked away, ashamed. A few people lightly touched my shoulder when the attackers weren’t looking. Nobody helped though.

I pray you never know what “alone” feels like. God forbid you do. But it hurts more than the act that was happening to make you realize you were alone. 

As LGBT people it is our duty as fellow people to intervene. To stand up for someone while bigotry, hatred, intolerance, violence, injustices, and inequalities are happening. Its NOT OK to not say anything. It IS your problem, its all of our problems.

If transgender people can’t use the bathroom or serve in the military, gay people can’t buy flowers or get married, can’t live in certain cities or suburbs, live normal lives…its OUR problem. Because we can stop it. 

When someone is being called a faggot, or being bullied, or spit on, or beat…its your responsibility to do something to stop it, to prevent it, to make sure everyone knows that they are NOT alone. 

Keep your “are you ok’s” and your pat on the backs, your “I’ll pray for you’s” and “God will repay’s”. You can keep your condolences and your “I’m sorry that happened.” A problem for one should be a problem for all. It is for me, I won’t let anyone feel as alone as I did Friday, January 27th, 2017 at 9:05 p.m.

I will never forget that isolation, nor will I EVER allow it to happen again to anyone within my sight, ever. Neither should you.

With Love